If you don’t ask, you won’t get! This is a favourite perspective of mine, and it applies to work and play. It’s about being assertive, being brave, and respecting that others may be able to give you what you’re looking for, and/or they may not. And it’s about not making it personal.
Yesterday, I was out for a bike ride and I noticed 3 women drumming (I have a Djembe that I haven’t played in a while). As I passed them I thought…. hmm.. what a nice day to be drumming down by the beach in the sunshine. I carried on riding. On my way back, they were still there and I noticed a spare drum on its side. I rode past thinking that I’d really like to play. After a little self talk, I turned around and rode over to where they were playing, and asked them if I could join them for a few minutes. They said yes :). We played, my husband who was riding with me waited patiently, and we got two little girls who were watching us clapping and dancing to the rhythms…It was about 10 min of glorious fun!.
so….. What are the key steps?
1) Notice what it is you want or need (pay attention to what you’re thinking and feeling)
2) Consider the risks of asking (and remember, don’t take “no” personally)
3) Consider the risks of not asking
4) Enjoy what you get, and if you don’t get what you want, congratulate yourself for being brave, and move on to your next experience.
Think about it…. what do you need or want to ask for? And remember, if you don’t ask, you won’t get…
Have a great day.